hi all
My mum is 77 with mixed dementia diagnosed 2 years ago. She has done well with Aricept, but increasingly has some bad phases during the day. I go to see her at the weekend as I am some distance away in london, but for about a year I have also arranged for a lodger to live in a small granny flat on the side of the house rent-free, in exchange for looking in and checking up a couple of times a day.
My mum now needs more than looking in on. The lodger as it happens is also a carer who does p/t shift work. I am considering asking her to take on paid support for my mum, 3 or 4 hours a day, chatting, reassuring her that she still has some money (all consuming baseless worry) cooking, a bit of cleaning. my mum needs personal care but will not accept it at this stage, although some soiled pants will probably need collecting and washing.
On the basis of asking her to do this for 20 hours p/w, with free accommodation and not being asked to do night duty or anything (ie not a live-in carer really) would £200 p/w net be reasonable or insulting? It is about what I pay my nanny to look after 2 year old and pick up 2 others from school, but is this a different ballgame to childcare? Don't want to be mean - just to do the right thing, so any thoughts so very appreciated - thanks in advance
My mum is 77 with mixed dementia diagnosed 2 years ago. She has done well with Aricept, but increasingly has some bad phases during the day. I go to see her at the weekend as I am some distance away in london, but for about a year I have also arranged for a lodger to live in a small granny flat on the side of the house rent-free, in exchange for looking in and checking up a couple of times a day.
My mum now needs more than looking in on. The lodger as it happens is also a carer who does p/t shift work. I am considering asking her to take on paid support for my mum, 3 or 4 hours a day, chatting, reassuring her that she still has some money (all consuming baseless worry) cooking, a bit of cleaning. my mum needs personal care but will not accept it at this stage, although some soiled pants will probably need collecting and washing.
On the basis of asking her to do this for 20 hours p/w, with free accommodation and not being asked to do night duty or anything (ie not a live-in carer really) would £200 p/w net be reasonable or insulting? It is about what I pay my nanny to look after 2 year old and pick up 2 others from school, but is this a different ballgame to childcare? Don't want to be mean - just to do the right thing, so any thoughts so very appreciated - thanks in advance