My Mum had Alzheimers, ending up with it being very severe and needing to go into a home, so I know exactly what it's like. But now my OH has the very early stages and I really would like some advice. he has trouble with remembering the right words, tho sometimes he's fine and you wouldn't notice. But conversations sometimes go on and on because he's groping for the right word, and I don't leap in and tell him because that doesn't seem the right thing to do. Can someone tell me if that's the right strategy ? And then he has patches of doing things about the hous terribly slowly, so I want to leap in and finish whatever he's so slowly doing. I am a very patient person (I had twins who seemed to spend their youth dawdling), but living life at this pace and endlessly waiting for him to finish the sentence, or whatever he's doing is really taking it out of me. I know there's much worse to come, but please can a kind and wise person here tell me how you train yourself not to feel impatient, or is there a good book or something I can read. If I feel this bad when he's hardly ill at all, what's it going to be like when he gets worse ? He's also got very determined that we should both do the things he wants to do, so that I feel as if my own life is seeping away and his illness is taking over both of our lives. I know that sounds very selfish, but I suffer from depression (have had a lot of treatment for it, and it just keeps coming back again), and I feel very down.