I don't know if the rest of you know about this but it may be worth mentioning for anyone in the situation I was in recently. Having been told my mother was dying I was approached along with dad to be the first patients to use this new procedure called "pathway". I agreed to it as soon as I heard what it entailed. Basically when you know your loved one is dying pathway is an agreement that you will not allow the doctors or nurses to carry out anymore intrusive tests. No more blood pressure, blood tests, drips or medications. Basically they keep your loved one very comfortable until the end. I was very glad of this as I had watched my mother suffer terribly the last 3 months but that last 2 weeks was a living nightmare. I agreed to pathway for the last 3 days as that was when we were approached with it. She settled slightly once the tests were stopped. It is very much a last resort but can be stopped immediately if you see any improvement in their condition at all. Unfortunately mum's stage was way beyond that. But I was glad of the opportunity to help her as peacefully as we could to pass over. I do not cry over the death of my mother, I did most of that when she was still alive, but a terrible anger rages within me. I don't know if this is normal as I've never had a close death before but I wish it would go away, tears I could cope with but anger is a whole new emotion to me. How strange this whole grieving process is, but it's only been just over a week since she found her peace. As mum passed I felt great elation in my heart, I don't know if I was experiencing her joy of release but it was truly wonderful and not at all frightening.