My partner of 22 years was diagnosed with dementia four years ago when he moved into a care home. We used to live together for a third of the year but since he moved into care I have to stay in a B&B whenever I visit so only get to see him a couple of days each month at best.
When he first moved into care I was welcomed at the home he is in, but recently the tone towards me has changed. I have been given various spurious excuses why we cant sit in his room together- first it was because the room was being cleaned, then it was for fire safety reasons now I am told it is to protect his mental health.
When we were sitting in the communal area I was holding his hand when a member of staff pulled me to one side and told me I must not do that because it is abusing him and it might upset other residents (not that it had upset other residents). There were plenty of things I could have said to that but I bit my lip and didnt say anything.
How much affection does anyone else show to a partner in care and what is the attitude of staff to you?
When he first moved into care I was welcomed at the home he is in, but recently the tone towards me has changed. I have been given various spurious excuses why we cant sit in his room together- first it was because the room was being cleaned, then it was for fire safety reasons now I am told it is to protect his mental health.
When we were sitting in the communal area I was holding his hand when a member of staff pulled me to one side and told me I must not do that because it is abusing him and it might upset other residents (not that it had upset other residents). There were plenty of things I could have said to that but I bit my lip and didnt say anything.
How much affection does anyone else show to a partner in care and what is the attitude of staff to you?
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