Hi I've just joined the forum as I could do with sharing experiences that I have with my partner. From reading some of the threads I know I am not alone in my concerns.
Since October I have been keeping a record of jigs my partner of 5 years does and says. It started with memory but wasn't sure if it was stress so gave him benefit of the doubt. Then he began substituting words such as grid for trellis and iron box for wood burner. He has changed in the last few months from someone I still love but just don't like as he is rude and belligerent when he never used to be.
He is just 57 but has an awful fear of aging and exhibiting signs of growing old. I know he is aware of his memory lapses which are places we've been or things we've talked about. He is fine with his roman legions and ancient Greece although he is forgetting some dates now.
I have asked him to see a gp but he says he's going to die anyway so there's no point finding a name for something which will kill you anyway.
We don't live together so I see the changes in him more easily as it does seem to change so quickly.
My daughter works with dementia patients as a nurse and has told me that unless he wants to get help there's nothing I can do. He has no close family as he seems to have fallen out with his sons recently too.
It's tearing me up seeing him changing so rapidly. I know he is aware that he has a problem but he is too scared to face it I think as it would be his worse nightmare come true.
What can I do or say to help? I don't want to walk away but he hasn't been the man I fell in love with for some months now and I want him back or at least try. Any advice much appreciated x
Since October I have been keeping a record of jigs my partner of 5 years does and says. It started with memory but wasn't sure if it was stress so gave him benefit of the doubt. Then he began substituting words such as grid for trellis and iron box for wood burner. He has changed in the last few months from someone I still love but just don't like as he is rude and belligerent when he never used to be.
He is just 57 but has an awful fear of aging and exhibiting signs of growing old. I know he is aware of his memory lapses which are places we've been or things we've talked about. He is fine with his roman legions and ancient Greece although he is forgetting some dates now.
I have asked him to see a gp but he says he's going to die anyway so there's no point finding a name for something which will kill you anyway.
We don't live together so I see the changes in him more easily as it does seem to change so quickly.
My daughter works with dementia patients as a nurse and has told me that unless he wants to get help there's nothing I can do. He has no close family as he seems to have fallen out with his sons recently too.
It's tearing me up seeing him changing so rapidly. I know he is aware that he has a problem but he is too scared to face it I think as it would be his worse nightmare come true.
What can I do or say to help? I don't want to walk away but he hasn't been the man I fell in love with for some months now and I want him back or at least try. Any advice much appreciated x