Hi susan,still not sure how this works,i am trying my best to hold things together. I need to talk with somebody thats going through what I am. I always said that I would prefer 10 good years with one person happy married then 25 years with somebody that maybe hit more or never had any love.I have met and married my soul mate and am stuck in grief in the sense I dont want to unpick the ties that we once had together.I need help!!this is so hard to write down what I want to say??