My FIL has had dementia and Alzheimer’s for a couple of years now and even right from the beginning he gets into a state believing we are trying to take his money and his property (a farm) from him. He follows us round talking mainly jibberish but we get the gist about what it is he is meaning. He becomes aggressive and shouting, pushy and jabbing fingers into us. On one occasion he put a knife to me and was jabbing at me. He often walks around on the road outside with a knife or a piece of wood. The thing is my partner struggles to deal with the aggressiveness and shouts back. I often play referee and it’s upsetting. My MIL keeps saying she’s going to get a carer in and get an assessment for his meds but she keeps putting it off. It’s like she’s in denial even though her career herself was as a dementia nurse! Today I snapped and had a go at my MIL for burying her head in the sand and I feel terrible. We’ve tried all the techniques to get him off the subject but he persists all day everyday. I don’t know what to do anymore. Does anyone have any advice?