Help I am panicking my mother is 90 and has dementia for about 5 years. She was managing at home with 3 carers a day and day centre twice a week and me popping in several times a week. Tonights carer phoned to say one of her neighbours had to climb though an open window at mums as she decided to go out alone ( first time in 3 years) , the neighbour asked if she had a key to get back in and she said no only my watch. His wife looked after mum till he could break in and unlock the front door. My question is do I try live in carers, care home or put cameras on the doors with sensors . I know we cant double lock the front door as she needs an escape route in case of an emergancy. Has anyone got any ideas please.
Thanks
Sally
It is time, I’m afraid,
@lacey1962 to call SS and explain you need an urgent assessment for your vulnerable mother, whom you can no longer keep safe. When my mother, also 90, wandered off in the night 6 months ago, and was found barefoot in her nightie, she ended up in hospital as it just wasn’t safe anymore. They wanted to send her home with just carers, then with a door alarm where I would get called, day or night, nearby or on the other side of the world. I refused, politely but firmly, explaining why - and this is important as otherwise you will be left to deal with an impossible position- and eventually they found her and my 87 year old father a flat in an extra care housing facility with onsite careers, day and night, and a door alarm the carers set after last visit. If this goes off then carers are alerted and can come quickly.
