Hi Sylvia,
I remember my Granny, a born worrier, saying to my Grandpa : 'Oh Ted, what will you do if anything happens to me?'. My Grandpa (a man of few words) merely said 'I've got me plans
'. Not the reply she was expecting!
In fact she did die first and my Grandpa came to live with us. My Granny had had dementia but my Grandpa had covered up for her for who knows how long. When she died he was a lost soul. They had been together for so long - they married after my Grandpa came back from the First World War and my Granny died on their 60th Wedding Anniversary
. My Grandpa died about a year later, mainly of a broken heart.
My godfather was asked a similar question by his wife along the lines of 'What do you think you'll do if I die?' 'Well' he replied 'I'll go and see my cousin that you don't like in Canada, I've always fancied going to such and such a place.....' After about half an hour of him telling her what he was going to do she came to the conclusion that he couldn't wait for her to pop off! That was some years ago and she is still around cramping his style.
I know none of the above helps. My Dad often talks about his death. This varies from 'Two weeks?? I'll be dead by then!' through 'You all just want me to die' to 'I'm not ready to die yet you know!'. This last comment being made halfway through a 3 mile walk having just scrambled down a steep bank.
Sue