Hi,
Our mum has Parkinson and just been diagnosed with dementia my sister lives with mum and has done for the last 6 years. I believe mum has had Parkinson for at least 3 years and now she has been diagnosed with the early stages of dementia my sister is finding it difficult to manage now as mum is asking the same questions every day also my sister is going through the menopause so this does not help we all try to do our bit for mum but it isn't easy as the rest of us work Monday to Friday and our sister works Saturday and sunday nights. Its become a struggle so we have now had to put mums name forward to a sheltered housing nursing home of which we have looked at two council run places one of which is lovely but It could be along wait for a vacancy to be available in the mean time we just take turns in covering mum and making sure she isn't alone 24 hours a day. I have recently sent away for a lot of advise as we are unsure how to handle mum at times which leads me to the question should mum know that she has dementia my sister doesn't want her to know as she does worry about everything now days you should also know that our mums sister has alzheimers and has been in a home for many years this home is not really suitable but there is nothing we can do as my aunts husband is still alive so next of kin. However our mum has seen this home and she will think that all homes are like the one her sister is in and we do not want her to become distressed at the though of going into a sheltered housing nursing home for dementia. What would you advise should we tell mum that at some point she will be moving into a lovely new home or leave it till nearer the time and hope she takes it well. Very confused
Our mum has Parkinson and just been diagnosed with dementia my sister lives with mum and has done for the last 6 years. I believe mum has had Parkinson for at least 3 years and now she has been diagnosed with the early stages of dementia my sister is finding it difficult to manage now as mum is asking the same questions every day also my sister is going through the menopause so this does not help we all try to do our bit for mum but it isn't easy as the rest of us work Monday to Friday and our sister works Saturday and sunday nights. Its become a struggle so we have now had to put mums name forward to a sheltered housing nursing home of which we have looked at two council run places one of which is lovely but It could be along wait for a vacancy to be available in the mean time we just take turns in covering mum and making sure she isn't alone 24 hours a day. I have recently sent away for a lot of advise as we are unsure how to handle mum at times which leads me to the question should mum know that she has dementia my sister doesn't want her to know as she does worry about everything now days you should also know that our mums sister has alzheimers and has been in a home for many years this home is not really suitable but there is nothing we can do as my aunts husband is still alive so next of kin. However our mum has seen this home and she will think that all homes are like the one her sister is in and we do not want her to become distressed at the though of going into a sheltered housing nursing home for dementia. What would you advise should we tell mum that at some point she will be moving into a lovely new home or leave it till nearer the time and hope she takes it well. Very confused