I had an horrendous day yesterday- 'Joining' something and Monique did not mix...
She became angry, abusive and violent - screaming and shouting in the street, hysterical - so so upset - almost unimaginable. This was as I was taking her home from this local AD 'meeting place' for sufferers.
It was supposed to be 10.00 to 17.00 - I got her there just after 10.00 - all OK - fairly calm - not thrilled - but sort of OK - I thought- I stayed around for half an hour - three quarters till the 'professional - semi professional' carers said to me quietly, when she went to the loo, for me to leave shortly after Monique sat down again - so she came back, sat down - I said I was off for a short while but would be back to get her shortly.. I could tell she was not impressed by any of it but the carers said that was normal
Got a call to collect her at 15.00 and a young male carer warned me to be careful - and she was indeed in a pretty violent state of anger - and taking her home was a pretty awful experience. she was a bit violent but even Monique can see I am a lot bigger than her so she would be foolish to take me on!!!
Emotionally it was all a ****** - an English friend, Louise, came round and helped comfort Monique and I stuffed some extra Dexorat into her and things got better... ish.
Eventually got her to eat - she had refused all food at the 'meeting' and then got her dinner and then through the abuse I started to get angry with her and told her to go to bed and leave me alone...
So not a happy state of affairs - usual guilt etc.. but worst of all it looks as if I can never get any respite at all except when I pay people to come in and Monique sit! maybe that is the way forward.. Will take her to the Doctor who needs to be visited after her hospital adventure and see if he can talk some sense into her.
Horrid mixture of a very frightening experience for Monique combined I think with a tantrum and a disappointing experience for me which left me emotionally a bit drained.
Hey ho... Another day another challenge ... really would be interested to know if others have had a similar problem and if so what short term solution they found - if any. Although I can see that Monique was frightened, insulted and probably a few more emotions at being at this 'meeting' with comparatively strange people - she had in fact met two of the carers before when they came to our house to interview Monique before assigning her a place, I am of the opinion there is a degree of 'tantrum' going on but of course for the person having the tantrum (odd word) it becomes so emotionally charged it all becomes a reality...
really would be grateful for any feedback - advice.
Michael
She became angry, abusive and violent - screaming and shouting in the street, hysterical - so so upset - almost unimaginable. This was as I was taking her home from this local AD 'meeting place' for sufferers.
It was supposed to be 10.00 to 17.00 - I got her there just after 10.00 - all OK - fairly calm - not thrilled - but sort of OK - I thought- I stayed around for half an hour - three quarters till the 'professional - semi professional' carers said to me quietly, when she went to the loo, for me to leave shortly after Monique sat down again - so she came back, sat down - I said I was off for a short while but would be back to get her shortly.. I could tell she was not impressed by any of it but the carers said that was normal
Got a call to collect her at 15.00 and a young male carer warned me to be careful - and she was indeed in a pretty violent state of anger - and taking her home was a pretty awful experience. she was a bit violent but even Monique can see I am a lot bigger than her so she would be foolish to take me on!!!
Emotionally it was all a ****** - an English friend, Louise, came round and helped comfort Monique and I stuffed some extra Dexorat into her and things got better... ish.
Eventually got her to eat - she had refused all food at the 'meeting' and then got her dinner and then through the abuse I started to get angry with her and told her to go to bed and leave me alone...
So not a happy state of affairs - usual guilt etc.. but worst of all it looks as if I can never get any respite at all except when I pay people to come in and Monique sit! maybe that is the way forward.. Will take her to the Doctor who needs to be visited after her hospital adventure and see if he can talk some sense into her.
Horrid mixture of a very frightening experience for Monique combined I think with a tantrum and a disappointing experience for me which left me emotionally a bit drained.
Hey ho... Another day another challenge ... really would be interested to know if others have had a similar problem and if so what short term solution they found - if any. Although I can see that Monique was frightened, insulted and probably a few more emotions at being at this 'meeting' with comparatively strange people - she had in fact met two of the carers before when they came to our house to interview Monique before assigning her a place, I am of the opinion there is a degree of 'tantrum' going on but of course for the person having the tantrum (odd word) it becomes so emotionally charged it all becomes a reality...
really would be grateful for any feedback - advice.
Michael