Does anyone else feel like there is always something?
I just seem to get Dad's care co-ordinated and him accepting things and something else goes wrong!
Because Dad lives alone (not my choice, I would have him here) I have had to get help from social services. After much dificulty in getting Dad to accept home care he is now going the other way and doing less for himself.
Is this just normal deterioration or is he becomming the 'patient'?
Some days I just don't know what to do for the best. Because he now won't get up until home care arrive (sometimes not until 10 40 am) he is not now washed and dressed when his Home Help arrives to cook his hot meal. Last week i had to go and do it after paying £11-00/hr for the home help and the SS home care being there. Again yesterday he was left a meal that I just know would of been cold by the time he got around to eating it.
I have tried phoning him every morning to get him up (he can get up and make a cup of tea) but he just stays there until some one comes. I have phoned SS but they carn't change his call and Home Help say they carn't change the time of his call. Yet agan i feel like i am banging my head against a brick wall. Why is it so hard to get every thing co-ordinated? Sometimes i feel like there is some one up there having a right good laugh at my expense, watchig as i jump through hoops trying to ensure the best care for my Dad all the time.
Sorry to rant, i know there are really no answers but what i wouldn't give for a couple of weeks when every thing went as it should do and i didn't have to jump through those hoops!
Sally
I just seem to get Dad's care co-ordinated and him accepting things and something else goes wrong!
Because Dad lives alone (not my choice, I would have him here) I have had to get help from social services. After much dificulty in getting Dad to accept home care he is now going the other way and doing less for himself.
Is this just normal deterioration or is he becomming the 'patient'?
Some days I just don't know what to do for the best. Because he now won't get up until home care arrive (sometimes not until 10 40 am) he is not now washed and dressed when his Home Help arrives to cook his hot meal. Last week i had to go and do it after paying £11-00/hr for the home help and the SS home care being there. Again yesterday he was left a meal that I just know would of been cold by the time he got around to eating it.
I have tried phoning him every morning to get him up (he can get up and make a cup of tea) but he just stays there until some one comes. I have phoned SS but they carn't change his call and Home Help say they carn't change the time of his call. Yet agan i feel like i am banging my head against a brick wall. Why is it so hard to get every thing co-ordinated? Sometimes i feel like there is some one up there having a right good laugh at my expense, watchig as i jump through hoops trying to ensure the best care for my Dad all the time.
Sorry to rant, i know there are really no answers but what i wouldn't give for a couple of weeks when every thing went as it should do and i didn't have to jump through those hoops!
Sally