Hi everyone, this is my first posting so I would be grateful of any replies and advice you have to offer. My Mum is only 66yrs old, after noticing memory loss, vagueness and growing lack of social interaction, I spoke to our GP. After visiting Mum she referred her to a community Phsyciatric Nurse who began to visit. She in turn got a Consultant to see Mum, he thought Mums problem may be vascular related. For over a year she has done nothing around the house, apart from now if you leave a cup of coffee for 2 seconds it is thrown out, the cup washed and put away, but she denies doing it! She has started smoking again after stopping 25yrs ago. She can appear relatively ok but when she has a cigarette almost instantly she changes and returns to the room almost like a zombie. it is the same reaction every time she has a cigarette. What I find hard is one minute I'm talking to her normaly like my old Mum almost and the next feeling so patronising, because I'm talking about the weather to fill in the silences and the only reply I get is "Mm Mm" or just "I dont know". How do you ever get used to your Mum being someone else than who she has been all your life, and even worse for my poor Dad, having to look after his wife almost like looking after a child. Any of your comments would be most welcome.