My mum is in a great home but (as I have explained on TP before) but was very agitated for a long time and wanted to 'go home', packed her belongings up every single night, vehemently demanded to get a taxi etc. to go to her 'home '(steeet address dating from 1930 etc) My father died in June 2004 and she moved into this lovely place the day after his funeral but was very unsettled for a long time (causing rebelliions among other 'clients' encouraging them to 'mutiny !', phoning the police saying she was being kept against her will etc . However, now she seems to think she is on holiday - last time I visited ( 10 days ago) (I go once a month - she is up North , I am in London ) she said to ask 'one of the waitresses' ( ie carers) to ask what time supper would be. Recently, she always asks for early morning calls, a newspaper, room service etc ! In fact my parents did go on quite a lot of holidays in their time which they loved.. Today I rang and said ' hello how are you?' she said she was on holiday in Llandudno (North Wales where she always used to go with her parents) with her mother but would be coming back 'tonight' to her childhood address (from c. 1930) and finished with 'see you later' - ie I am ( as usual, her sister who is 85 - I am 41). I remarked about all this to the carer who said' Yes I keep saying to her "you're not in a hotel love ! " . But I said "well why bother her ? Just reaffirm she is on holiday (even if it is just in her head) - it's easier and makes her happy and contented - before she was agitated and now she is not - if she thinks she is in a hotel - fine !" Play the game there is no point arguing". I think as others on TP have said, basically you just join in ... So should I suggest to the care home staff ( or to this one particular carer) to play along with the 'hotel ' idea - as they seem to be contradicting her and frankly if this ' holiday' makes her happy then , well hey go with it ......
What do you all think ?
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What do you all think ?
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