I am an only child, a wife, a mother of 3 and work full time, by the way, my mother has vascular dementia and lives with us. Since my father died, my mother's condition has deteriorated. She can hardly walk, but manages to reach the bathroom with a walking aid. She is mostly confused, recently very demanding of my time ('who else will help me?') and has irritated my husband so much recently that he has finally left me tonight, but not before screaming his greviance at her. What the hell do I do now?
Possibility no.1 : Do nothing. If my husband is so fed up of it all, then he needs to leave.
Possibility no.2 : Arrange a care home for mum as I soon will not be able to see to her every need. (By the way, I would have done this sooner if it wasn't for my husband who disagrees with care homes charging so much money )
Possibility no 3 : Arrange as much respite care as I can (I think I'm still due 4 weeks for this financial year. This will give me thinking time - and give everyone else time to re-evaluate the situation.)
Possibility no.4 :Get as much help for mum from community support systems as possible so she isnt so bored and dependent on me, and be irritating to others - oh no, I forgot, I HAVE been asking for help but the local phsychiatric nurse isn't answering my calls, and any local alzheimers society numbers I have obtained aren't picking up the phone. Forget that then!
Possibility 3 sounds the best option. Anyone agree, or have a better idea? Sorry If I sound harsh or sarcastic, but I've had a bad night in all!
Possibility no.1 : Do nothing. If my husband is so fed up of it all, then he needs to leave.
Possibility no.2 : Arrange a care home for mum as I soon will not be able to see to her every need. (By the way, I would have done this sooner if it wasn't for my husband who disagrees with care homes charging so much money )
Possibility no 3 : Arrange as much respite care as I can (I think I'm still due 4 weeks for this financial year. This will give me thinking time - and give everyone else time to re-evaluate the situation.)
Possibility no.4 :Get as much help for mum from community support systems as possible so she isnt so bored and dependent on me, and be irritating to others - oh no, I forgot, I HAVE been asking for help but the local phsychiatric nurse isn't answering my calls, and any local alzheimers society numbers I have obtained aren't picking up the phone. Forget that then!
Possibility 3 sounds the best option. Anyone agree, or have a better idea? Sorry If I sound harsh or sarcastic, but I've had a bad night in all!