My Mum has been awful the last few weeks - her sundowning has been awful. Every evening we come home, I fix her tea and then until she finally goes to bed about 9pm, but sometimes later - on and on and on about moving in with her Mum. She lives with us and has a lovely large room upstairs with settee, bed, chair - loads of stuff. She's been really aggressive and quite nasty some days, but I tend to let it fly over my head - she can't help it, it's not my mum it's Alzheimer's. Well she has a carer in 2 a day Tues to Friday to give her breakfast and dinner. Well I came home from work and had her on me straight away - going to live with her mum, blah blah,blah blah. She'd also managed to get into the back garden and trailed mud and cat poo all through out the house. She came down stairs after I had just finished washing the kitchen floor and started on again about moving in with her Mum again - and I just snapped 'You can't move in with your Mum, Nan is dead, she passed away years ago' OMG, I don't even know where it came from. I even repeated it to her when she asked again. And yet, it didn't even touch her, she accepted my offer of a cup of tea and that was it. And for once, it was easier this evening than it had been for weeks. I do love her, but my mum is no longer here - it's the constant aggression, sun downing, it's almost like a form of mental cruelty.