I feel all caring is difficult, every age has its issues, some have young children or work to juggle with. So I am not thinking it is worse for older carers but a bit different.
I have the time but not the energy, my own needs take longer to deal with too.
There seems very little help, once on a pension you are considered to be receiving a benefit. Two benefits are not allowed!
Attendance Allowance is a moot point, my GP reckons it is for people with physical needs,
I encourage my husband to be as self sufficient to as possible, I encourage him to make a sandwich etc.
He s fit because I keep him so his condition means he has no self motivation. I have to check he drinks, he can make a drink but forgets to drink it. He would not get something to eat if I was not there.
I do constantly monitor, check security, and I now have to do the chores once shared.
I do try to keep him keep face, I go to things to get him out and about, we have no car so not so easy.
My friend is register blind and cares for her husband in a similar way, even harder.
I suppose in common with most carers we are experiencing a grief for losing the person, the friend, partner and lover for someone different.
Perhaps our pain is in our thwarted expectations. I try not to expect but habit kicks in!
So older carers or younger carers advice gratefully received. Might even be taken! iF I have the energy.
I have the time but not the energy, my own needs take longer to deal with too.
There seems very little help, once on a pension you are considered to be receiving a benefit. Two benefits are not allowed!
Attendance Allowance is a moot point, my GP reckons it is for people with physical needs,
I encourage my husband to be as self sufficient to as possible, I encourage him to make a sandwich etc.
He s fit because I keep him so his condition means he has no self motivation. I have to check he drinks, he can make a drink but forgets to drink it. He would not get something to eat if I was not there.
I do constantly monitor, check security, and I now have to do the chores once shared.
I do try to keep him keep face, I go to things to get him out and about, we have no car so not so easy.
My friend is register blind and cares for her husband in a similar way, even harder.
I suppose in common with most carers we are experiencing a grief for losing the person, the friend, partner and lover for someone different.
Perhaps our pain is in our thwarted expectations. I try not to expect but habit kicks in!
So older carers or younger carers advice gratefully received. Might even be taken! iF I have the energy.