I learnt’ very early on that when SS said dad had fluctuating capacity that was when I stepped back. So I used to give him the phone for him to do his thing. The phone ended up on the table. The calls were never made. When he used to have a go at me my argument was “ you can do that”.Funnily enough when confronted with it he used to go quiet. These days as he is in the latter stages of VD he is amenable and does even less. ( he is immobile but can throw things and be verbally aggressive) but rarely.Most definitely lol.