I saw dad in Sainsbury’s the day before yesterday and met him and his carer for lunch.(It was my birthday)It’s an opportunity for him to get out and have lunch and do his shopping. He seems to be enjoying it (but you can never tell).As I find him too heavy with the ramp etc which is why the carers are doing it.
I went and saw him yesterday and a complete turn around. As usual I’m the whipping girl!He wasn’t best pleased that the nurse has come and taken more blood. They have stopped his Metformin because of his declining kidneys.They are looking at his Vitamin B12 as they are concerned he might be anemic. So I explained this again. Then it was the “I’m bored”! I explained he could go out to daycare and the home he stayed in for respite but he didn’t want to be with “old people “.I told him that I haven’t booked him in for his usual monthly bath as he continually moans about it.Then it was the “Barclay “saga and about how they have money for him.So I phoned the number I had given him and we didn’t get passed first base.(He doesn’t have an account with them)Dad was practically jumping out of his chair by the time I had explained this..again.Then onto the car and how it was my fault as I had taken his license away.I informed him the doctor told DVLA as he’d had a stroke .Also his license had expired! He said he could drive the car as automatic.(It is at my mum’s house in her garage)At that stage the cleaner said to him it was the doctor not me as it was a requirement.He still wasn’t having it.I had decided by that point I was going home as I hadn’t been home for 2days. I stay at mums during the week to see them both.
His personality definitely hasn’t changed it is still the same but has become more pronounced with time and his dementia. There is only so much compassionate communication I can do with him..His health is worse than his dementia..
I went and saw him yesterday and a complete turn around. As usual I’m the whipping girl!He wasn’t best pleased that the nurse has come and taken more blood. They have stopped his Metformin because of his declining kidneys.They are looking at his Vitamin B12 as they are concerned he might be anemic. So I explained this again. Then it was the “I’m bored”! I explained he could go out to daycare and the home he stayed in for respite but he didn’t want to be with “old people “.I told him that I haven’t booked him in for his usual monthly bath as he continually moans about it.Then it was the “Barclay “saga and about how they have money for him.So I phoned the number I had given him and we didn’t get passed first base.(He doesn’t have an account with them)Dad was practically jumping out of his chair by the time I had explained this..again.Then onto the car and how it was my fault as I had taken his license away.I informed him the doctor told DVLA as he’d had a stroke .Also his license had expired! He said he could drive the car as automatic.(It is at my mum’s house in her garage)At that stage the cleaner said to him it was the doctor not me as it was a requirement.He still wasn’t having it.I had decided by that point I was going home as I hadn’t been home for 2days. I stay at mums during the week to see them both.
His personality definitely hasn’t changed it is still the same but has become more pronounced with time and his dementia. There is only so much compassionate communication I can do with him..His health is worse than his dementia..