My OH is going into respite for the first time tomorrow because I am having an eye operation. I haven’t told him as I know he will refuse to go! I feel so guilty but have no choice! He knows I am having an operation but has forgotten when. He has told me he can look after himself which I know he cannot! He can hardly do anything now. I can’t see him settling he is in there for one week. How have others gone on with respite? He has vascular dementia and Alzheimer’s. He can be abusive when not getting his own way! He has gone downhill a lot in the last 6 weeks I did wonder if he is now ready for permanent care as he is getting so difficult to look after.