Thanks - I'm feeling calmer already - hes gone shes gone - just the interfering cousin that is still around like a lingering bad smell!@Donkeyshare 4 hours ....WOW... what a guy. Be prepared to hear how wonderful it was to see him, and that he came all that way! Try to remember that because you are the primary carer your presence is just something that your Mother takes for granted as part of her routine, and not let it get to you that she is so pleased about a galloping visit from her Son. I visit my Mum everyday and spend 4 hours feeding her dinner, getting her ready for bed and taking care of all of her needs. My brother, who works 20 minutes from her , pops in for an hour once every 6-8 weeks and guess whose name she calls out for lol.
Dementia is a cruel master!
Well done to be rid of him and his know-it all daughter. Don't you just love when people tell you 'they've read this' about dementia so they think they are in a position to give you advice ! It's hard not to be bitter but it sounds like you are doing a wonderful job of doing what's right by your Mother. Stay Strong!