So we offered an olive branch to the invisible who has been a complete --------- to us for those that know my posts. Its the MIL's 90th Sunday and we suggested it would be good for him to see her ( after 15 months absence). He said yes he thought perhaps he should. Tonight we find out that he is bringing his daughter and staying at a friends hotel down the road from us, the MIL wont have clue who the granddaughter is as she has not seen her for 5 years and they are going to "pop in" in for the tea and cake put on by us for those that have supported her (and us). The OH has asked the invisible that he hopes that's not all the time he will see her as he has all of Sunday. I'm lost for words. Like others have said he will pop over and go back to his life and leave us to it as usual! What a complete w------ amongst other words!