Morning Tin...
Flowers When my mum died I had several people send me flowers (not all on the same day)...
First flower delivery / display... went in lounge on mantle ...
My husband was upset and angry with me as he didn't remember me telling him that she had died....
Every hour or so he would look at them, ask where they had come from, and I'd remind him they were for me/us, as my mum had died...
He got angry and accused me of not telling him about mum, when did she die, why didn't you tell me...
To stop this 'loop' I said they were for him, from his mum.... and aren't they lovely...
I also hid all the condolence cards that were being sent to me/us
That worked well for a few hours.... or the next day when another bunch of flowers were delivered...
along with a box of chocolates and a really cute teddy bear...
This made husband even more suspicious and angry with me... and thought 'I was up to something'...
This bunch got put in the utility... out of the way...
Third bunch arrives.... husband now furious !! (each time, still not remembering my mum had died)...
I gave this and the next bunch away to 'the carers' that we had coming in to assist with bathing etc....
I couldn't talk to , or receive comfort from my husband like a 'normal wife'.
He was angry with me if I was crying or tearful .... Didn't like me making lots of phone calls....
and the flowers really sent him super-super-angry.
The very first thing he said to me when I told him my mum had died was "What's your point ?"
I couldn't grieve for my mum in a normal way .... and all because of flowers .....
Flowers When my mum died I had several people send me flowers (not all on the same day)...
First flower delivery / display... went in lounge on mantle ...
My husband was upset and angry with me as he didn't remember me telling him that she had died....
Every hour or so he would look at them, ask where they had come from, and I'd remind him they were for me/us, as my mum had died...
He got angry and accused me of not telling him about mum, when did she die, why didn't you tell me...
To stop this 'loop' I said they were for him, from his mum.... and aren't they lovely...
I also hid all the condolence cards that were being sent to me/us
That worked well for a few hours.... or the next day when another bunch of flowers were delivered...
along with a box of chocolates and a really cute teddy bear...
This made husband even more suspicious and angry with me... and thought 'I was up to something'...
This bunch got put in the utility... out of the way...
Third bunch arrives.... husband now furious !! (each time, still not remembering my mum had died)...
I gave this and the next bunch away to 'the carers' that we had coming in to assist with bathing etc....
I couldn't talk to , or receive comfort from my husband like a 'normal wife'.
He was angry with me if I was crying or tearful .... Didn't like me making lots of phone calls....
and the flowers really sent him super-super-angry.
The very first thing he said to me when I told him my mum had died was "What's your point ?"
I couldn't grieve for my mum in a normal way .... and all because of flowers .....