Just some random observations from the last couple of weeks really - am guessing quite common?!
There is (certainly in my Mum's case) a complete lack of empathy or awareness of other people's own needs, circumstances etc. As an example - am up with Mum in the middle of the night. Mum - why are you whispering? Me - because it's the middle of the night and OH is trying to sleep. Mum (in extra loud voice) - OH! (That word OH she somehow manages to stretch out to 5 syllables and tones as if what I've just said is the most bizarre thing ever!). When she had to use the porta-loo at the weekend, she simply left her used pads on the floor (as she does here at home too mind - even though there is a bin right next to every toilet!). There is absolutely no comprehension of or curiosity/interest in e.g. how the laundry is getting done to ensure clean, dry clothes appear in her wardrobe; what happens to the bins that become full of incontinence pads (magic!); how the chemical toilet empties itself every few days. I could go on lol.
Another thing I've noticed is that unless something is right in front of her - she can't see/find it e.g. she goes to bathroom specifically to brush her teeth. Stands at the sink and says she can't find her toothbrush (it's in a wall-mounted toothbrush holder just to one side of the sink. She can never find the toilet roll either (on a wall mounted loo roll holder beside the toilet but, of course, behind her). Am going to start buying coloured toilet paper, see if that helps.
I can now totally understand how a PWD can become malnourished (and/or dehydrated). Mum is unable to remember when she's eaten. If I say that dinner will be ready soon, she'll often say that she thought we'd had dinner already. Are you hungry? She'll then either say "I'm always hungry" or "I don't know". She never requests food (or drink) - it always has to be offered/presented.
I'm sure there will be more of these as time goes by! If one was more detached from it, it could be quite fascinating!
There is (certainly in my Mum's case) a complete lack of empathy or awareness of other people's own needs, circumstances etc. As an example - am up with Mum in the middle of the night. Mum - why are you whispering? Me - because it's the middle of the night and OH is trying to sleep. Mum (in extra loud voice) - OH! (That word OH she somehow manages to stretch out to 5 syllables and tones as if what I've just said is the most bizarre thing ever!). When she had to use the porta-loo at the weekend, she simply left her used pads on the floor (as she does here at home too mind - even though there is a bin right next to every toilet!). There is absolutely no comprehension of or curiosity/interest in e.g. how the laundry is getting done to ensure clean, dry clothes appear in her wardrobe; what happens to the bins that become full of incontinence pads (magic!); how the chemical toilet empties itself every few days. I could go on lol.
Another thing I've noticed is that unless something is right in front of her - she can't see/find it e.g. she goes to bathroom specifically to brush her teeth. Stands at the sink and says she can't find her toothbrush (it's in a wall-mounted toothbrush holder just to one side of the sink. She can never find the toilet roll either (on a wall mounted loo roll holder beside the toilet but, of course, behind her). Am going to start buying coloured toilet paper, see if that helps.
I can now totally understand how a PWD can become malnourished (and/or dehydrated). Mum is unable to remember when she's eaten. If I say that dinner will be ready soon, she'll often say that she thought we'd had dinner already. Are you hungry? She'll then either say "I'm always hungry" or "I don't know". She never requests food (or drink) - it always has to be offered/presented.
I'm sure there will be more of these as time goes by! If one was more detached from it, it could be quite fascinating!
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