Does anyone know how long it takes for the funding to go through for a nursing home via SS. We have been waiting for weeks for the funding to go through. They did tell me it would take time, but i am very worried now about how things are taking its toll on my moms mental health as well as her own physical health decline as carer for my dad. Though i have stressed to SW that i think mom is at breaking point, and i am now realy worried that mom will totaly fall apart and then i'm going to be in an even bigger mess than what we are now if she does.What the hell am i going to do if she does pop the pills as a way out. Do people out there realise how desprate carers can get when looking after someone with AD for so long. Sorry this is so depressing, but shes only 70 and i don't want to lose my mom as well. It feels like i've whatched my dad go through a dark tunnel of no return, and my mom go down a slippery slope. Would it help if mom went to her GP to see if he could move things any faster? On top of whats going on the home care she has twice a week hasn't turned up for 3 weeks and respite i booked with SW aparently asn't been booked in at all when she rang to comfirm. I know i will regret doing this post tomorrow but i'm getting so fed up with the strain of holding things together for them. They don't desserve all this in there twilight years, and its so sad to have to watch them go through it. Sorry this has been such a long post. Janet