Hi, I am new to this site. I am my dad's only relative. He was admitted to hospital from self funded residential care. We agreed he couldn't go back to the care home as they unable to meet his needs.. He's trapped in hospital with nowhere to go. He's been assessed as agressive (normal dementia really)The only place that might take him is £4000 per week. Is this normal price for nursing care, can he be expected to pay that much?? It is so far away for me to visit and the cost is astronomical. What should I do next. have POA.
Nursing home -where to turn now?
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Hi @Pinkcat welcome to the forum.
£4000 does sound excessive. Have you received a breakdown of fees from the new home?
I wonder if a placement in a mental health hospital might be in order to see if medication can be given for his aggression to make him manageable in a normal EMI home.
My dad’s carehome was less than £600 a week in 2018 and they dealt with a certain amount of aggression. Dad wasn’t independently mobile though.
If your dad’s care needs are really that high I’m surprised someone hasn’t suggested applying for CHC, although it is very difficult to get.
£4000 does sound excessive. Have you received a breakdown of fees from the new home?
I wonder if a placement in a mental health hospital might be in order to see if medication can be given for his aggression to make him manageable in a normal EMI home.
My dad’s carehome was less than £600 a week in 2018 and they dealt with a certain amount of aggression. Dad wasn’t independently mobile though.
If your dad’s care needs are really that high I’m surprised someone hasn’t suggested applying for CHC, although it is very difficult to get.
Yes they have said he can have a full assessment for CHC but what if we have no funding after the 4weeks. It feels criminal, he'd probably get better treated if he was!! I will ask for a break down, but saying he needs one to one and some three to one care. I wonder if the LA would pay that much per week if he hadn't got a penny to this name.!
I’m surprised that your dad hasn’t been sectioned if his aggression is this bad @Pinkcat . I wonder if this might be a path worth pursuing. My dad was sectioned when I refused to let the hospital send him home, not because of violence but because he was unsafe, the hospital said they had no choice and would have to place him on a section. Dad was sent to a suitable carehome from there where he became aggressive during personal care but they dealt with that as a matter of course.
My friend’s dad was sectioned due to extreme violence, (he was convicted of murder until someone realised he had dementia) and he was sent to a specialist hospital and eventually returned to the care of his daughter where he spent the remainder of his days. I think it’s worth discussing other options with your dad’s doctors and seeing if his aggression could be bought under control with medication under medical supervision.
Other members have more experience of aggression than I do so hopefully someone else will be able to tell you more.
My friend’s dad was sectioned due to extreme violence, (he was convicted of murder until someone realised he had dementia) and he was sent to a specialist hospital and eventually returned to the care of his daughter where he spent the remainder of his days. I think it’s worth discussing other options with your dad’s doctors and seeing if his aggression could be bought under control with medication under medical supervision.
Other members have more experience of aggression than I do so hopefully someone else will be able to tell you more.
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