Hi all, i've a question. My mum is at that difficult in between stage. Not really bad but not great either. She has vascular dementia and her weight has plummeted, her personal hygiene has gone, everything you try to do for her theres a row. Like today there was at least 10mins of an arguement before she'd let me wash her hair, which hadn't been done for at least 5 days!
At present she lives with my brother but he's getting married soon and my new sister in law has two daughters (12 and 6). Starting married life with two kids is going to be a big change and mum is becoming more and more difficult. my brothers at work all day and i live 25miles away and work too so mums on her own for long periods. she refuses to go to day centres and is constantly out walking and buying the same things in the shop over and over - it's almost like OCD.
My brother and I feel it would be best for mum to live in a fold of some sort and her case worker has been asked about this but how do we persuade mum that this is a good thing and that we're not just throwing her out of her house! We obviously only want her to be watched over and have company but any time we do mention it she starts telling people that "he (my brother) want to put me in a home but i'm not going"
She also has it in her head that she can child mind the girls while my brother and their mum are at work. obviously this is out of the question !!
Any advice?
Ann x
At present she lives with my brother but he's getting married soon and my new sister in law has two daughters (12 and 6). Starting married life with two kids is going to be a big change and mum is becoming more and more difficult. my brothers at work all day and i live 25miles away and work too so mums on her own for long periods. she refuses to go to day centres and is constantly out walking and buying the same things in the shop over and over - it's almost like OCD.
My brother and I feel it would be best for mum to live in a fold of some sort and her case worker has been asked about this but how do we persuade mum that this is a good thing and that we're not just throwing her out of her house! We obviously only want her to be watched over and have company but any time we do mention it she starts telling people that "he (my brother) want to put me in a home but i'm not going"
She also has it in her head that she can child mind the girls while my brother and their mum are at work. obviously this is out of the question !!
Any advice?
Ann x