My experience
Hi Eddie, I've read lots here but I'm not sure I've posted before..so here goes
I've been looking after Dad for 4 years now and i've seen him slowly go downhill, so we have to adapt every week.
Things he has never eaten in his life and what I have to do.
Eggs (unless hidden in something else)
Cheese (can't see it in cheese sauce)
Tomatoes (tinned are ok or basil & toms cooked to mush)
One thing you will come across is diabetes, this is quite hard to handle especially if they have a sweet tooth.
My experience: Everything was fine until they took dad off medication because of kidney probs (he has type 2). They gave me a testing kit to keep up with his BG. It spiked horribly for a lot of stuff he liked, so I had to find recipes that would suit this. After a lot of experimentation I did find a reasonable cake recipe that I will give you, believe me, most of them are inedible. The old folks and their sweet tooth.
Unfortunately the advice I got nearly killed him, I put him on a diabetic diet and he lost so much weight it scared me. He's now on a normal diet with as much cream, full milk and potaotes as I can get into him, he's now up to 9st 8lbs, I no longer test his BG
The next problem to arise was swallowing liquids, cake and bread.
Liquids are easy to fix with starch thickener.
Bread and cake are now completely off the menu, they make him cough horribly, so no sandwiches. But i do get some bread down him soaked in thick soup.. If it's store bought I more often have to add thickener. But he loves home made pea & ham hock soup which I can stand a spoon in.
One strange thing though.. I found he can eat pastry, so he can have a pastie which he can hold if I cut it into slices (this is the only thing he can manage himself)I also make him an apple pie (home made with sweetner)which I cut into slices and freeze, he loves it with custard.. but no sugar at all.. very hard work.
On bad days when he doesn't drink enough because he's sleeping most of the time, (he usually conks out after his pudding).. I give him a double helping of sugar free jelly, that's in the fridge every day and essential for those days. He does have jelly every day just to be on the safe side even when he's having a good day.
Something else I discovered, a lot of dementia patients lose the sense of taste. So I make very strong flavours in the food I cook and some that I buy.. like curry or chilli con carn.
Salad is a work of art.. prawns have to be in a sauce which I make myself.. you know that pink stuff..and salad has to be cut small and has to have mayonnaise mixed in with it, or it won't stay on the spoon..lol, tricks we carers get up to.
Snacks: he can have quavers because they melt and are not cumbly (don't like wotsits, they make an awful mess, won't buy those again). Somehow he manages to eat diabetic choc waifers.. odd I know. Apples and Pears peeled and cut up: sometimes a little coughing, but we try.
Here is the link to the diabetic cake recipe which is tried and tested by me, it doesn't rise as much as a normal cake, but it tastes great.
http://dl.dropbox.com/u/12954436/Madeira Cake with Coconut Recipe.doc
Apologies for the long post.
Good work you are doing there Eddie, you're a saint