Hi there, I really appreciated everyone's advice and support when a place recently became available for my Mum. I moved her up to a lovely wee residential home last Monday and made sure to include lots of familiar bits 'n bobs. Superficially, everything has gone so much better than I had anticipated. She's interacting well with both the staff and other residents, participating in activities and telling everyone how much she likes it. Courtesy of the fact that she's well hydrated, eating well, has been given the opportunity to settle into a semi-familiar routine, being given discreet support when required and easily distracted when a bit muddled ...... in just a few short days she is actually better now than she has been for over 18 months.
As others have found, she's phoning me with a great deal of regularity - particularly after 4pm - basically to ask when she's going home. Sometimes she is easily pacified, sometimes she's tearful++ and other times she's downright rude (but only when she thinks nobody is around to hear her!)
My sister and I have held Mum's POA for over 30 years and she ensured that the wording basically gave us responsibility to make all decisions regarding Mum's health, welfare and financial affairs as and when we considered it to be appropriate - instead of relying upon two doctors to activate an AWI.
However, because she's so much better, I have absolutely no doubt that she would currently pass muster as far as capacity is concerned and I just wondered if anyone else has been in a similar situation. If she does not have an AWI and should she take herself out of the care home, can she actually be stopped?
As others have found, she's phoning me with a great deal of regularity - particularly after 4pm - basically to ask when she's going home. Sometimes she is easily pacified, sometimes she's tearful++ and other times she's downright rude (but only when she thinks nobody is around to hear her!)
My sister and I have held Mum's POA for over 30 years and she ensured that the wording basically gave us responsibility to make all decisions regarding Mum's health, welfare and financial affairs as and when we considered it to be appropriate - instead of relying upon two doctors to activate an AWI.
However, because she's so much better, I have absolutely no doubt that she would currently pass muster as far as capacity is concerned and I just wondered if anyone else has been in a similar situation. If she does not have an AWI and should she take herself out of the care home, can she actually be stopped?