Had interviews with both of my Mothers Consultants and the Phychiatrist yesterday
They totally agree that my Mothers first Mini Stroke was 5 yrs ago
2nd was 4yrs ago when the para medics said it definitely was .......yet the doctors at hospital when directly asked insisted tha she had not had a mini stroke
3 yrs ago and 2 yrs ago she collapsed again and on not one of these occasions did the doctors tell the truth
IF ONLY THEY HAD TOLD HER AND US we could have ensured everything now would be so different
1) My Mother wittered about living wills but did nothing ..........if she had been told that she had had a mini stroke she would have made one ( Actually called an Advance Directive )
Then she would have been spared the last 5 harrowing weeks and god knows how many more to come
When she was admitted to hospital with pneumonia had she had an Advance Directive they would have simply made her comfortable and she would have slipped away
Now under the dubious guise of " palliative care " they are trying to
1) persuade her to take her BP pills
2) giving her antivbiotics for a stomach bug aquired in hospital
3) giving her a blood transfusion
Her MMSE is ZERO
Her confusion is total
to add to her misery she now has a rectal prolapse which of course is darned uncomfortable and she has no hope of understanding
( she keeps talking about men with big lumps ... took me a while to figure out what she truly means !!!!!!!!!!)
Because of her cognitive state they will not operate on the prolapse
Theres a DNR on her notes YET they keep on trying to prolong her agony
Sorry but if thats the Hippocratic oath of "do no harm" I can only wish she was an animal under the care of a vet because no vet would allow such awful suffering
My husband and I are now ensuring we have an advance directive set up PDQ
Let this be a salutory lesson to all ...........set up an Advance Directive when you are fit and you will be spared the hell my Mother at 90 yrs old and all of us as a family are enduring
While my Mothers doctors currently are exceptionally nice people I cannot ever forgive the wider medical profession for their downright LIES
They totally agree that my Mothers first Mini Stroke was 5 yrs ago
2nd was 4yrs ago when the para medics said it definitely was .......yet the doctors at hospital when directly asked insisted tha she had not had a mini stroke
3 yrs ago and 2 yrs ago she collapsed again and on not one of these occasions did the doctors tell the truth
IF ONLY THEY HAD TOLD HER AND US we could have ensured everything now would be so different
1) My Mother wittered about living wills but did nothing ..........if she had been told that she had had a mini stroke she would have made one ( Actually called an Advance Directive )
Then she would have been spared the last 5 harrowing weeks and god knows how many more to come
When she was admitted to hospital with pneumonia had she had an Advance Directive they would have simply made her comfortable and she would have slipped away
Now under the dubious guise of " palliative care " they are trying to
1) persuade her to take her BP pills
2) giving her antivbiotics for a stomach bug aquired in hospital
3) giving her a blood transfusion
Her MMSE is ZERO
Her confusion is total
to add to her misery she now has a rectal prolapse which of course is darned uncomfortable and she has no hope of understanding
( she keeps talking about men with big lumps ... took me a while to figure out what she truly means !!!!!!!!!!)
Because of her cognitive state they will not operate on the prolapse
Theres a DNR on her notes YET they keep on trying to prolong her agony
Sorry but if thats the Hippocratic oath of "do no harm" I can only wish she was an animal under the care of a vet because no vet would allow such awful suffering
My husband and I are now ensuring we have an advance directive set up PDQ
Let this be a salutory lesson to all ...........set up an Advance Directive when you are fit and you will be spared the hell my Mother at 90 yrs old and all of us as a family are enduring
While my Mothers doctors currently are exceptionally nice people I cannot ever forgive the wider medical profession for their downright LIES