I’m feeling quite anxious about going to my dad’s tomorrow. After the social worker referred us to OT I have agreed for an extra rail for the stairs and a commode. Ross care are coming tomorrow to fit the extra rail but I haven’t told him yet because he last time I mentioned it he said he didn’t need an extra rail because he can walk down the stairs backwards! I am worried that he might refuse to have it fitted. When the social worker visited he also agreed to have a pendant alarm but has also since said that he wasn’t there and he should have said no to everything. His sister recently has had a stroke and when we went to visit her he told her that she should have had one. When I reminded him of this he replied that it wasn’t the same. Is there anything that can be done if he refuses to have the rail fitted? Has anyone experienced anything similar? My sister and I have POA for financial and health and welfare but nobody has or seems to be able to say that he lacks capacity. The consultant said that SS would make that decision but the SW said that wasn’t part of his job. My dad has vascular dementia so he has good days and bad days.