Hello...Well quick back story. I just lost my mom 4 months ago to cancer. I took care of her on hospice at my house until she passed. She always took care of my dad who we knew had a mild case of dementia. While she was at my house he was living alone. Long story short I knew something was wrong and had him moved into an assisted living facility (since he had never cooked or cleaned a day in his life). After my moms passing I found out how bad my dad really was. Since her passing I receive several calls a day asking for my mother some sweet other times angry where he accuses her of stealing his car and "dumping him" at this "hotel". He never can remember where he is so I put a "helpful reminder sheet" by his phone to slow down the 15 phone calls a day. To no avail now he sees it and says HEY I should call her. Then he makes me feel horrible saying I never come see him or call him even though I see him several times a week!!! He just can't remember...and I work and have a husband two kids (3 and 12) to take care of! He has called me in the middle of the night swearing at me and my husband calling us all sorts of names and doesn't remember in the morning. I can't be mad at him. I wish it followed a pattern because with my mom's cancer it followed a sequence I knew what was coming...what do I expect from dementia?? What happens next? He is only 74 years old!!! Caring for my mom wore me down to almost my breaking point and to find out I basically lost both my parents at the same time is almost too much to take. I just wish I knew what was coming next. The doc said Vascular and progressive dementia...pretty broad if you ask me. I am at my wits end.
~Amanda
~Amanda