Hello all TPers. Not been on here for a few weeks but now I need some advice, please. My mum(aged 82) has been deteriorating over the last few weeks. Her short term memory is almost non existent, she repeats endlessly and has become incontinent of urine (as far as I know its not the other). She has been packing again, and every day for the past two weeks I have unpacked only to go back the next day for it all to be packed again. She is packing odd things. She wants to go 'home'. She is not changing her clothes and at times the house smells of urine. Apart from the usual conversations about where she lives, she has now forgotten my Dad and that she was married, does not remember her children (Me), and is living in the long time past with relatives who are long dead who visit her. She said she gets lonely. I have suggested a day care activity centre which was not taken very well as she did not want to be with old people. I explained the activities but they were not good enough as she had all that at home and has people who pop in and see her (they dont). I have suggested a care package to help with changing her bed when (that man down the road) wets it. She does not want carers as she likes to do housework (not very often), doesnt need company, is not lonely, and can manage. Im not sure what to do next. I find myself getting cross with her and the constant packing, I dont want to hear the constant round of questions and repeating the constant round of answers for it to all start again. I dont like the fact that she picks on one of my sons who is always 'miserable' whlst the other is brilliant. I dont want her to have Dementia and there is nothing i can do about it. Ok rant over, but how can I persuade her to have some support other than me?