Whilst I admire the resolve of anyone who continues to provide care at home I do wonder for how long this is sustainable and if it is in the best interests of both the carer and the person they care for.
My personal experience is of inability to give my wife the level of 24 hour care that she deserved. It was more than one person could manage even - in my view - with carers coming in several times a day. Deciding to look at care homes was hard. The prospect of permanent residential care and choice of care home were made easier by her having sufficient assets to be self-funding.
Finding the best care for her growing needs was my primary focus. The idea of compromising on her care to protect the inheritance of her son and granddaughter was never an option, nor would they have wanted me to do so.
Freedom from the stress of caring full time and knowing that she is safe and cared for has helped me enormously. It has also enabled a pale version of our relationship as husband and wife to re-emerge out of the fog of dementia.
Everyone's circumstances are different and only those directly involved are able to decide what they think is best. There are no easy options.
My personal experience is of inability to give my wife the level of 24 hour care that she deserved. It was more than one person could manage even - in my view - with carers coming in several times a day. Deciding to look at care homes was hard. The prospect of permanent residential care and choice of care home were made easier by her having sufficient assets to be self-funding.
Finding the best care for her growing needs was my primary focus. The idea of compromising on her care to protect the inheritance of her son and granddaughter was never an option, nor would they have wanted me to do so.
Freedom from the stress of caring full time and knowing that she is safe and cared for has helped me enormously. It has also enabled a pale version of our relationship as husband and wife to re-emerge out of the fog of dementia.
Everyone's circumstances are different and only those directly involved are able to decide what they think is best. There are no easy options.
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