My OH has vasculer dementia and when he was diagnosed 3 years ago we were told he could have mixed dementia. He wasnt too bad really up till about 8 months ago, when his walking got quite difficult for him although he could manage to go out on his own as long as it wasnt too far. But now fast forward 6 months and his mobility is extremely bad, barely able to walk at all, IF he goes out it must be with me and a ten min walk will take us about 25 mins, he hangs on to me for fear life and stick in other hand, so he will only go out if he really has to which is our local GP which is 2 min walk but takes him 10 mins, it's very very difficult for us both. His mental state is deteriorating also quite fast, he can't answer questions, or I'm not sure he really understands what Im saying sometimes, his speech is getting very slurred like he can't pronounce his words, and his writing is getting scrawny. He is finding it difficult to walk about indoors also a d has a few falls the last couple weeks, He is sleeping a lot too, although when he's sitting and then suddenly goes to sleep its easier cos I know he's peaceful then. When I hear of other people with dementia they either have poor mobility OR poor memory and other mental issues but my OH seems to have Bad mobility AND bad mental problems, I'm really wanting to go to my sister for 2 days but have no one to stay with him my daughter would take me to sister as its 4 hour drive and I dont drive, I know he wont go to respite so I haven't mentioned the subject but I would love just a couple days away from everything. But I know this goes in stages and wondered what stage he could be at now.
Sorry this was long and drawn out, I just wanted to explain how my unhappy husband is, at that's the worse part, I think it would be easier if he didn't know what was going on in his world but he does and it's so distressing for him, he now can't do anything indoors except sit in armchair although he does TRY to wash himself sitting on stool but he's worried he's going to fall and he wont let me help him, very stubborn.
I go to bed at night and read or go on my tablet cos I dont want to go to sleep, because then it will be morning and it all starts again. I'm waiting to see if we get a grant for a walk in shower, so fingers crossed for that.
Sorry this was long and drawn out, I just wanted to explain how my unhappy husband is, at that's the worse part, I think it would be easier if he didn't know what was going on in his world but he does and it's so distressing for him, he now can't do anything indoors except sit in armchair although he does TRY to wash himself sitting on stool but he's worried he's going to fall and he wont let me help him, very stubborn.
I go to bed at night and read or go on my tablet cos I dont want to go to sleep, because then it will be morning and it all starts again. I'm waiting to see if we get a grant for a walk in shower, so fingers crossed for that.