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not such a good day again

Discussion in 'ARCHIVE FORUM: Support discussions' started by bel, Apr 22, 2008.

  1. bel

    bel Registered User

    Apr 26, 2006
    757
    coventry
    sorry to be a pain

    bob has been on anti phsycotic tabs for about 10 days agression a lot better confusion worse but better than the agression
    social worker plus support worker came this morning to do assecements
    have seen them both over 3 years 3 times dosent matter
    but when talking bob said i have a sweat rash going to put some talc on it i showed them rash they said vist gp
    within 15 mins another consutant phoned get an urgent appointment for blood test today he had phoned gp so glad it was urgent nurse said they said consutant wants an urgant tel call still waiting bob is covered in talc
    first thing tomorrow i want answers
    love bel x
     
  2. BeckyJan

    BeckyJan Registered User

    Nov 28, 2005
    18,972
    Derbyshire
    Oh dear Bel:

    You do get problems. Was the rash the reason for the urgency -do they think it was more than a sweat rash? If so you must be very worried. I do hope you get the answers you need tomorrow - trouble is these folk dont usually work as quickly as we would like.

    Just to share my husband has been in a dreadful mood during my visit today. So unlike him I have found it hard to cope, but tomorrow is another day.

    Good night now - hope you get some rest.
    Best wishes Jan
     
  3. christine_batch

    christine_batch Registered User

    Jul 31, 2007
    3,388
    Buckinghamshire
    Dear bel,
    Do hope things go okay for Bob.
    Hope you are trying to take care of yourelf.
    Best wishes
    Christine
     
  4. helen.tomlinson

    helen.tomlinson Registered User

    Mar 27, 2008
    541
    Hi Bel

    Now why are you apologising Bel - you are not a pain. I do hope you get the answers tomorrow and that the rash gets cleared up. I don't suppose the talc could be an irritant could it?

    Best wishes Bel

    Helen
     
  5. bel

    bel Registered User

    Apr 26, 2006
    757
    coventry
    the speed they move at is amazing

    yesterday it was urgent blood test in case meds had poisioned bobs blood to hear this from top consultant was worrying he said ok to put baby talc on to stop itching
    i was worried all night as no one got back to me bob is ok so i was angry this morning i phoned nurse who brings meds as soon as i said who i was she said hi how is bob she sounded concerned she had been told by the team has he had his blood test yes but no one has let me know whats happening i am worried it was urgent yesterday my gp said the bloods were going off within the hour she is lovelly but i am at my wits end she says it should be quick cos it was urgent should not take long i said how long i am worried about urgency and also if bob is off them too long without an alternative the agression will be back i will definatly feed back to you before the day is out still waiting bobs rash is not so angry re stopping meds and talc love bel x
     
  6. lesmisralbles

    lesmisralbles Account Closed

    Nov 23, 2007
    5,543
    Sorry to ask, where is the rash. Ron has one.

    Yes, Ron has a rash round is groin, testicales.
    BarbX
     
  7. bel

    bel Registered User

    Apr 26, 2006
    757
    coventry
    rash

    bobs is all over top of body not legs etc
    love bel x
     
  8. lesmisralbles

    lesmisralbles Account Closed

    Nov 23, 2007
    5,543
    Thanks Bel

    Wish you both luck and love
    Barb X
     
  9. Taffy

    Taffy Registered User

    Apr 15, 2007
    1,314
    Dear Bel,

    Sorry that you have all this worry I hope that it is all sorted out quickly.

    Best Wishes to you and Bob, love Taffy.
     
  10. bel

    bel Registered User

    Apr 26, 2006
    757
    coventry
    no phone call re results emergancy blood tests

    bobs rash has got better
    so thought hang on till lunch time
    give them chance to phone re results
    no phone call left message on answer phone we close shop at 1 on thursdays i thought i will phone 9 am in the morning
    but i could feel the agression starting to mount with bob just like before tabs as the afternoon progressed he got worse really nasty
    so i phoned again got through to the nurse i said i have not heard results re bloods she was supried
    i said bob is getting nasty again i cant cope with the weekend
    with out help she said i will talk to consutant and get back to you consutant phoned later after bob had gone wild a few times at me he is hard to understand not our usualy guy but he says bobs bloods were ok so we can carry on taking tabs love bel x
     
  11. BeckyJan

    BeckyJan Registered User

    Nov 28, 2005
    18,972
    Derbyshire
    I am pleased to hear that Bob's rash is getting better.

    Have you a number to ring over the weekend if things took an unwelcome turn? I am sure things will be ok for you as you seem to cope so well, but its good to have an emergency no. handy.

    Love to you both Jan
     
  12. Skye

    Skye Registered User

    Aug 29, 2006
    17,000
    SW Scotland
    Hi bel

    I'm glad Bob's rash is better, and that he can continue with the tablets. You couldn't cope with his aggression again.

    But once again, you've been let down and had to do a lot of chasing. Why can't people do what they say they are going to?

    I hope all goes well tomorrow -- any problems, ring and demand some help.

    Love,
     
  13. bel

    bel Registered User

    Apr 26, 2006
    757
    coventry
    let down so right why can they say urgent and then leave us in limbo

    the last few years i havnt cried much i am to tired to busy and it would upset bob but i am sitting here trying to type one fingered as always and the tears are stopping me seeing screen
    i am so frightened i am so ill myself
    when bob went nasty yesterday on top of being worried about his blood i said and i ment it and still do i cant cope any longer with him shouting at me
    he is a bit calmer today but how do i go from abuse as bad as he was for ages to calm for a while then horrific anger then now to a bit calmer he can forget how nasty and angry he got with me now hopefully he will get calmer
    i cant swap over so quick sorry i cant be posative
    why did they have to leave it so long to tell me what was happening if i had not phoned phoned again i dread to think what the weekend would bring love belx
     
  14. Skye

    Skye Registered User

    Aug 29, 2006
    17,000
    SW Scotland
    Dear bel, I know how hard it has been for you.

    But Bob is back on his calming medication, so hopefully you won't have to go through it again.

    If he does get aggressive over the weekend, call the emergency number. You don't have to cope on your own.

    Love and hugs,
     
  15. Grannie G

    Grannie G Volunteer Moderator

    Apr 3, 2006
    68,674
    Kent
    Dear Bel.
    Please go to your own doctor. It is very important s/he knows how much you are being let down and how ill you are. If there is no surgery tomorrow, make an appointment for Monday, even if you have to close the shop. The way you are feeling the shop will have to close for good as you are in no fit state to work.
    Please get some help for yourself.
    Love xx
     
  16. lesmisralbles

    lesmisralbles Account Closed

    Nov 23, 2007
    5,543
    Dear Bel, I agree with Silvia

    Please think about you. Please.
    Barb & Ron XX
     
  17. bel

    bel Registered User

    Apr 26, 2006
    757
    coventry
    seen my own doctor today which is hard to see her in less than a week she is so good

    thanks all as always

    she said it is disgusting
    her mum has alz and has had to go in to care and she says from a doctors point of veiw i would not of beleved how bad the system is
    other than give me stronger pain killers she cant change the system she said if i was not a doctor in the know and had private cover for mum --today the tabs have kicked in he is a lot calmer but bad weekend good news they are moving--support worker is comming wednesday to access bob making a sandwhich she was the one who said he was ok taking 2 buses to his art class by himself she still said i can acess him on buses again i said NO we are going to get art clases near so i can take him
    love bel x
     

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