Mum has been in Nursing Home since March after several hospital visits with infections. Mum has Dementia and Depression and poor mobility. I agree Mum needs 24 hour care.
I amher only son and looked after Mum at home for 6 years till March.
There is an extraordinary difference in her between morning and after lunch. She could pass for normal in the morning; I have a decent conversation with her at NH. However she tells me she hates being in NH and wants to come home where she canfind peace. After lunch Dementia takes over and she pleads repeatedly for me to take her home and asks time of bus and has shopping been done. This has become an obsession and nothing will distract her from her determination to return home. I am told by carers that her behaviour is much worse after I leave and goes on for 5 or 6 hours and she cannot dine in evening in dining hall as she creates disturbance.
I am reasonably content with care Mum receives in terms of washing, dressing and food and she was monitored and cared for well when she caught another infection in May.
However she definitely does not wish to be there whether she is normal in morning or suffering in afternoon. I am getting more and more concerned about the afternoon agitation as she goes on and on and stands up to the point of being out of breath and panting!
Surely there must be other Dementia patients who truly find it difficult living in community especially if they like privacy and independence and familiar surroundings of home? Any suggestions please? I know of 24 hour homecare but surely this is so expensive? Should I consider it? Is obsessionalism a part of Dementia or a separate mental health issue?
Incidentally I take Mum out in the morning and she enjoys it but most mornings and every afternoon has a strong desire to return home!
Thanking you for any help you can provide.
I amher only son and looked after Mum at home for 6 years till March.
There is an extraordinary difference in her between morning and after lunch. She could pass for normal in the morning; I have a decent conversation with her at NH. However she tells me she hates being in NH and wants to come home where she canfind peace. After lunch Dementia takes over and she pleads repeatedly for me to take her home and asks time of bus and has shopping been done. This has become an obsession and nothing will distract her from her determination to return home. I am told by carers that her behaviour is much worse after I leave and goes on for 5 or 6 hours and she cannot dine in evening in dining hall as she creates disturbance.
I am reasonably content with care Mum receives in terms of washing, dressing and food and she was monitored and cared for well when she caught another infection in May.
However she definitely does not wish to be there whether she is normal in morning or suffering in afternoon. I am getting more and more concerned about the afternoon agitation as she goes on and on and stands up to the point of being out of breath and panting!
Surely there must be other Dementia patients who truly find it difficult living in community especially if they like privacy and independence and familiar surroundings of home? Any suggestions please? I know of 24 hour homecare but surely this is so expensive? Should I consider it? Is obsessionalism a part of Dementia or a separate mental health issue?
Incidentally I take Mum out in the morning and she enjoys it but most mornings and every afternoon has a strong desire to return home!
Thanking you for any help you can provide.