Hello, I've been reading a lot of the threads here and I can see that there are some people are really going through some very hard stuff. My mum doesn't know that she has dementia and at the moment, it is not so bad EXCEPT that she is regularly hitting her alarm button, getting paramedics and neighbours out. Last week she hit it as she felt hungry and this triggered a call to her neighbour who kindly came and got her breakfast. Mum had forgotten that her carer was due to come half an hour later to make breakfast. Mum lives alone in her own apartment with carers coming in twice a day. I live 250 miles away and juggling work I try to get to see her every 4 - 6 weeks. I support her infrastructure as best I can ie online shopping, arranging finances etc. My question, one that I am absolutely struggling with, is that after an event this weekend, (alarm triggered twice, visit to A&E, neighbours disturbed three times in one night and they are in their 70s) I called residential care home near me that I have previously checked out. They may have a room available soon. I know my mum doesn't want me 'to put her in a home', she says so every time there is an 'event'. We could struggle on as we are, but I am wondering whether sooner rather than later, so if there is a room available I should grab it, 'kidnap' mum (we would probably have to hire a private ambulance for the long journey) and just hope to goodness that she will settle in and probably forget her flat/home 250 miles away. I know this situation is not nearly so anguished as many of you, but any advice would be so welcome. Thanks, Vira.