Hmm, Elaine. I am going to try to be funny here, but have never been good at being funny. Alzheimers, well that is no difficulty is it? It just means the person is a bit forgetful, so what's your problem? Leukaemia, doesn't that just mean their blood is a bit weak, so what's your problem there?
Eh? These are two serious and major illnesses requiring specialist care and if my mum had them, I'd want her properly cared for. Okay, Alzheimers can be variable, my mum's is quite unproblematic except at night when she gets ready for breakfast at 3 a.m. Not specialist care needed as such, but certainly night staff to check on her, but you only need to read a few threads on this site to know how really difficult some sufferers can be - and therefore what specialist care they need to help them.
Leukaemia, I know nothing about, except my aunt died of it 58 years ago. I suppose it depends whether it is in remission or not - after all it is cancer.
Not criticising you Elaine, but I understood that all residents into care homes were required to be assessed as to whether the home could meet their needs. Despite the relatives' secretiveness re the Alzheimers, did the care home assessment find they could meet her needs? I ask cos my mum has been in her home for 5 weeks now, and I was told she would have an assessment made within four weeks, and I would be invited to contribute, but I haven't been. Nor have I been asked to pay the fees yet!!!
Gee, Elaine, get a bit more experience, your NVQ4 out of the way, and run your own home. I'm sure you could do it. I'm told they don't make a lot of money, but I'm sure it will be more than your current meagre wages for the stirling job you seem to be doing.
Keep caring.
Love
Margaret