I feel so alone with all the problems around caring for my husband. Although I have good family they are all working full time. My husband will not accept going to a care centre, so I am left doing everything on my own. Am I selfish? This damn illness has escalated so quickly from a fall three months ago to confusion over numerous things, incontinence and sleepless night. Little help available from Social Care without an assessment which could be weeks away. I’m elderly too and have a fear of letting my husband slip while showering as I’m half his weight. Any advice welcome.