My husband has been in the psychiatric assessment ward of our local hospital for 9 weeks Initially he was admitted under section and has since had this changed to a compulsory treatment order which can be in place for up to six months. . He has been very agitated, trying to get out and there have been a couple of occasions when he was violent, punching one of the male nurses and putting his hands round the throat of one of the other patients. A place came up in one of our selected nursing homes but because of these incidents they refused to take him. He is now having further behaviour assessment and he may have to go to a facility for patients with challenging behaviour. He is still on the waiting lists of several nursing homes pending the outcome When I visit he seems to be quite settled, but when he sees me he seems to think I am there to take him home and gets upset when I leave. He doesn't look very well, and is going to the toilet a lot. I reported this and asked if they could do a urine test, but they don't seem to have done this. He has also started to put his clothes out of the window of his room and I expressed concern to the staff about this. When I visited today the window of his room, which could open a couple of inches, which enabled him to push some things through, has now been made completely unable to open. I spoke to the nurse in charge and said that he couldn't sleep in a room with no air. She said she was not aware of this having been done but would look at it. I feel that when I raise issues of concern I am being fobbed off all the time. A lot of things have gone missing, including clothes and a good electric razor, but no attempt seems to be made to locate these things. When he was at home he had very bad sundowning and became very agitated and went out walking in the evenings and getting lost etc. I have been told that he is still agitated in the evenings in hospital despite his medication having been increased. I am feeling very stressed, even more so that when he was at home and wandering all the time and getting lost and having the police involved. It breaks my heart every time I visit and see him looking so unwell and completely unaware of where he is and that he will not be coming home. I am crying a lot and sometimes wish that I had never initiated his admission, although my head tells me that I couldn't have continued with him at home either. Does anyone have experience of this putting clothes and things out of the window and any ways to stop him doing it. Also, what is my situation in relation to having a say in his management in view of the fact that he is under a compulsory treatment order. I have arranged to go on a five day holiday with friends but am now feeling very guilty about this and contemplating not going as I am sure I will worry about him the whole time I am away although there are several friends who will visit him in my absence. What do you think I should do?