My mum is still in hospital and despite 5 weeks of meds she is in complete denial of her diagnosis of Moderate Dementia with depression and Psychosis , is still delusional and now she has very swollen legs and ankles. I have been through a horrible time with the hospital. Firstly I let the OT visit at home with mum. Mum refused to put the heating on and when asked where the controls were she led them to the electric cupboard in the hall. She told them that she was not on any meds, that the government had stopped her taking high blood pressure tablets. She also spoke of how she was dragged from her house by two men who bundled her into the back of an ambulance and took her to hospital. She was apparently screaming out for me but the reply from the ambulance drivers was that it was all arranged by me. This did not happen as it was me that took her to hospital. I showed the OT the blackened kettle where it had been boiled dry so many times but mum refuses to replace it. When the OT asked her to pack for 2 weeks she just shoved 3 pairs of pants in her coat pocket, despite me asking her if she had brought everything home with her for the visit?She was sure what she was stood in was all she needed and the OT promised she would check when they got back. I visited her on Sunday and asked to see her room and sure enough, she had only the clothes that she stood in and the clean pants were still in her coat pocket. No toothbrush or toiletries, nothing. So on Monday eve,after work I took her clothes to her. The nurse there apologised. So on Thursday of this week, there was a message on my phone at 12 midday saying " hope you are on your way for the 11.30 Best Interests Meeting. I knew nothing about this meeting. I spoke to the OT because the consultant was busy who said the Social Worker didn't turn up either and the meeting has been changed to next Thursday as a Discharge meeting. During my visits to see my mum she has been awful. She didn't want to see me at all as all of this is "my fault". When I returned for the Sunday visit she said "Don't you go and open your big mouth and blow this for me. Don't you tell them I need more rest. I just want to go home and live on my own - I don't want carers. I have told them that you 'll do everything but don't worry I won't hold you to that" Being completely honest I can't handle being my mum's carer. I work full time, I have a husband who works in London and travels a bit. I have two daughters about to do A levels and GCSE's, one of which has Chronic Vestibular Migraine and is on strong medication. If they discharge my mum she will be back in the same situation before with all of the stresses from her delusions. She refuses any offers of help and says that I will do it all. I don't think she will take her meds because she doesn't think she is taking any now. I don't think she 'll put the heating on and I think we will go back into the section A&E cycle again. She can dress herself but she won't put the heating on - as happened last winter. She does go to the shops but she doesn't know her Pin No. She refuses to go to any Mental Health appts. She has no concept of what is a delusion and what is reality. Help I can't cope!!