So its been a while since I posted and hope you are all ok but I feel the need to check I'm not being over the top with the MIL's care home.
About a month ago we had a call from the care home to say the MIL was asking for new trousers, I pointed out that she had 6 pairs in the cupboard and that they needed to put her clothes out and that I had infact changed her trousers when visiting as she had the same ones on for 4 weeks running. Now they could have been washed inbetween but they should have checked in her cupboard before calling me and at least given her different ones. So I let it go.
This Sunday we went to see and take her out for coffee (we are covid free on the island and no social distancing before you ask!) Anyway she panics and said but I dont have any pants - I need new pants. I said they are in the bathroom so we went in and I got her Tena pants out the cupboard and she popped them on. I bought a new box over 6 weeks ago and they had not even been opened so I know they have not been changing them regularly - she has no others.
So yesterday I sent a polite email to the care home asking that they assist her more with changing clothes and putting clean pullups on as she will not remember and that the closed cupboards are an obstacle due to her dementia. I carefully worded it and said that I understood she probably said she was ok and did not need hlep, but surely with their dementia training they should have checked - is it not a basic care and thought for her dignity to make sure she had pants on?!
I am waiting for a reply but I'm reckoning I will get a letter - but at the end of the day we are paying them so I should not feel bad asking for this should I?
About a month ago we had a call from the care home to say the MIL was asking for new trousers, I pointed out that she had 6 pairs in the cupboard and that they needed to put her clothes out and that I had infact changed her trousers when visiting as she had the same ones on for 4 weeks running. Now they could have been washed inbetween but they should have checked in her cupboard before calling me and at least given her different ones. So I let it go.
This Sunday we went to see and take her out for coffee (we are covid free on the island and no social distancing before you ask!) Anyway she panics and said but I dont have any pants - I need new pants. I said they are in the bathroom so we went in and I got her Tena pants out the cupboard and she popped them on. I bought a new box over 6 weeks ago and they had not even been opened so I know they have not been changing them regularly - she has no others.
So yesterday I sent a polite email to the care home asking that they assist her more with changing clothes and putting clean pullups on as she will not remember and that the closed cupboards are an obstacle due to her dementia. I carefully worded it and said that I understood she probably said she was ok and did not need hlep, but surely with their dementia training they should have checked - is it not a basic care and thought for her dignity to make sure she had pants on?!
I am waiting for a reply but I'm reckoning I will get a letter - but at the end of the day we are paying them so I should not feel bad asking for this should I?