No nursing home availability - what now?

Deedee17

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Jun 26, 2019
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After 3,5 years of looking after my mother at home after a major stroke left her physically incapacitated she has now developed vascular dementia and has been assessed as not having capacity. The consultant advised that she would be better in a nursing home and I fully agree. She no longer believes her home is her home and is trapped in a chair all day, sometimes unable even to remember how to change channel on the tv! I work more than full time and have complex family issues myself. She has no one but me, as all other family and friends are thousands of miles away. I have reached burnout point and am no longer coping. I have just been informed that there are no suitable beds available in approximately a 40 mile radius, and no prospect of anything becoming available. What on earth can I do? I’m in Northern Ireland, so system works a little differently to England, I believe...
 

Shedrech

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hello @Deedee17
a warm welcome to DTP
what a worry for you

as you are in NI something on this page may be of help
https://www.alzheimers.org.uk/about-us/northern-ireland

There should be some way to arrange home care visits and day care .. might you ask your mother's doctor for a referral, and contact her local council, their website should have some information
at least having home care in place would give you a break from providing all her care

can you at least put your mother's name on the waiting list of any nursing homes you think suitable, then I guess it's a wait for a place

we do have members on DTP from NI .. might you add a general location to your profile so it's clear to members when they look at any of your posts, and those from NI might be able to offer specific suggestions
 

Sirena

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Feb 27, 2018
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As Shedrech as said, can in-home care be provided for your mother? Could you also ask them to search for placements further away? It sounds as if she urgently needs nursing care, the location is a secondary consideration. This must be so difficult for you, I hope you get a resolution.
 

Jaded'n'faded

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Jan 23, 2019
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I worry we'll be coming across this situation much more in the future - a sign of things to come perhaps.

I do hope you find somewhere suitable for your mum very soon - it must be terrrible to be told there are no beds. What the heck are you supposed to do?
 

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