No nursing home availability - what now?

Discussion in 'Welcome and how to use Dementia Talking Point' started by Deedee17, Jun 26, 2019.

  1. Deedee17

    Deedee17 New member

    Jun 26, 2019
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    After 3,5 years of looking after my mother at home after a major stroke left her physically incapacitated she has now developed vascular dementia and has been assessed as not having capacity. The consultant advised that she would be better in a nursing home and I fully agree. She no longer believes her home is her home and is trapped in a chair all day, sometimes unable even to remember how to change channel on the tv! I work more than full time and have complex family issues myself. She has no one but me, as all other family and friends are thousands of miles away. I have reached burnout point and am no longer coping. I have just been informed that there are no suitable beds available in approximately a 40 mile radius, and no prospect of anything becoming available. What on earth can I do? I’m in Northern Ireland, so system works a little differently to England, I believe...
     
  2. Shedrech

    Shedrech Volunteer Moderator

    Dec 15, 2012
    7,564
    Yorkshire
    hello @Deedee17
    a warm welcome to DTP
    what a worry for you

    as you are in NI something on this page may be of help
    https://www.alzheimers.org.uk/about-us/northern-ireland

    There should be some way to arrange home care visits and day care .. might you ask your mother's doctor for a referral, and contact her local council, their website should have some information
    at least having home care in place would give you a break from providing all her care

    can you at least put your mother's name on the waiting list of any nursing homes you think suitable, then I guess it's a wait for a place

    we do have members on DTP from NI .. might you add a general location to your profile so it's clear to members when they look at any of your posts, and those from NI might be able to offer specific suggestions
     
  3. Sirena

    Sirena Registered User

    Feb 27, 2018
    1,326
    Female
    As Shedrech as said, can in-home care be provided for your mother? Could you also ask them to search for placements further away? It sounds as if she urgently needs nursing care, the location is a secondary consideration. This must be so difficult for you, I hope you get a resolution.
     
  4. Jaded'n'faded

    Jaded'n'faded Registered User

    Jan 23, 2019
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    Female
    High Peak
    I worry we'll be coming across this situation much more in the future - a sign of things to come perhaps.

    I do hope you find somewhere suitable for your mum very soon - it must be terrrible to be told there are no beds. What the heck are you supposed to do?
     
  5. Sirena

    Sirena Registered User

    Feb 27, 2018
    1,326
    Female
    Yes I agree, as per the Guardian article in the News section.
     
  6. nitram

    nitram Registered User

    Apr 6, 2011
    18,557
    Male
    North Manchester

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