MH has been in hospital for 4 weeks initially with a UTI and constipation which caused delirium. The admission would not have happened if he had had access to a GP who, having never met him, prescribed tablets for prostate problems. If he had been physically examined his bowel problem would have been found.
While in hospital he refused to eat and drink unless I gave it to him and they would only let me see him one hour every day.
In 4 weeks, he has gone from a physically strong, fairly independent man to someone who is weak and helpless. The hospital are preparing to send him home where he will now need 24 hr. care.
When he comes home, I will challenge anyone who suggests he needs hospital treatment again. The NHS has hastened his dementia by years and hospitals, even after all the publicity about dementia, still have no idea how to treat people with the disease.
Sorry about the rant but I feel for you and others in your position. We know what it's like to want the best for our loved ones and are the only ones who know what that is. You are right to try to keep him out of hospital. I hope you can find some peace of mind too. It's agony having to make decisions on someone else's behalf and as carers we always feel we didn't do enough or should have done something differently. You are doing everything you can to keep him safe, as I hope I will when my husband comes home.