A couple of days ago I posted in Sue38's thread about "Licence Revoked" saying that my mum had promised me her car when she finally gives up driving, and how I was hoping she'd remember because I couldn't ask her for it.
Well, a short while ago my dad phoned to ask if we'd like to have mum's car I thought it was great that mum had remembered, but found out later that my sister had prompted her. Anyway, I'm glad it's happened without any embarrassment all round. I spoke briefly to mum, she sounded her usual chirpy self, but couldn't remember what her consultant had told her today, even though she had it written in her diary.
So, I phoned my sister to find out the results of mum's brain scan. There is no scarring and no tumours and the consultant said there was no evidence of mum having had a stroke. He said that he wasn't prepared to give a diagnosis yet, because he doesn't want to put her on any medication because of the possible bad side effects. My sister made another appointment for September, so we're still no nearer knowing what's wrong with mum.
She is totally confused about everything. She doesn't want to do anything at all. She's still on anti-depressants. My sister goes in every day to visit. She says that, although mum knows how to dress herself etc, she can't get enough enthusiasm up to decide what to wear without getting my sister to decide for her.
Mum and Dad are going to see a solicitor tomorrow about giving Power of Attorney to my sister (I told sis that I know where she lives, in case she does anything dodgy LOL) I think that there will inevitably come a time when both mum and dad will have to go into a nursing home. My dad is still able to deal with his finances, but his short-term memory is practically non-existant.
I'm sorry this is turning out to be so long - it helps to get it all off my chest
There are a couple of things that my sister said that made me think that mum is suffering from early stage Alzheimers. She said that mum was panicking because she didn't know if Jean (my sister) knew how to get to the hospital, and did Jean have a map. Jean has been to this particular hospital many times, not least the last couple of weeks with mum The second thing is that mum made a comment to Jean which really upset her. I can't remember (LOL ) the details, but Jean used to see Mum & Dad every Saturday, every Tuesday after work and would phone during the week. Mum turned round to her and said that Jean had stopped coming on the Tuesday because she (Jean) didn't like her (mum) anymore. I don't know why mum said that, as Jean is now seeing them every single day. She is letting Jean do everything for her.
My sister thinks that Mum hasn't got Alzheimers because she still knows how to do things, but I think she's in the early stages. Is that possible? That mum could have Alzheimers but still know how to look after herself? That capability could disappear at any time? I don't know why I want it to be Alzheimers, but I think it's because I want a label for what's wrong with mum. Does that make sense? Is that wrong of me? Should I just be rejoicing that there's no diagnosis yet, or continue to read up everything I can about Az so that I can help mum and advise my sister when the symptoms get worse?
Thanks for reading this far
Well, a short while ago my dad phoned to ask if we'd like to have mum's car I thought it was great that mum had remembered, but found out later that my sister had prompted her. Anyway, I'm glad it's happened without any embarrassment all round. I spoke briefly to mum, she sounded her usual chirpy self, but couldn't remember what her consultant had told her today, even though she had it written in her diary.
So, I phoned my sister to find out the results of mum's brain scan. There is no scarring and no tumours and the consultant said there was no evidence of mum having had a stroke. He said that he wasn't prepared to give a diagnosis yet, because he doesn't want to put her on any medication because of the possible bad side effects. My sister made another appointment for September, so we're still no nearer knowing what's wrong with mum.
She is totally confused about everything. She doesn't want to do anything at all. She's still on anti-depressants. My sister goes in every day to visit. She says that, although mum knows how to dress herself etc, she can't get enough enthusiasm up to decide what to wear without getting my sister to decide for her.
Mum and Dad are going to see a solicitor tomorrow about giving Power of Attorney to my sister (I told sis that I know where she lives, in case she does anything dodgy LOL) I think that there will inevitably come a time when both mum and dad will have to go into a nursing home. My dad is still able to deal with his finances, but his short-term memory is practically non-existant.
I'm sorry this is turning out to be so long - it helps to get it all off my chest
There are a couple of things that my sister said that made me think that mum is suffering from early stage Alzheimers. She said that mum was panicking because she didn't know if Jean (my sister) knew how to get to the hospital, and did Jean have a map. Jean has been to this particular hospital many times, not least the last couple of weeks with mum The second thing is that mum made a comment to Jean which really upset her. I can't remember (LOL ) the details, but Jean used to see Mum & Dad every Saturday, every Tuesday after work and would phone during the week. Mum turned round to her and said that Jean had stopped coming on the Tuesday because she (Jean) didn't like her (mum) anymore. I don't know why mum said that, as Jean is now seeing them every single day. She is letting Jean do everything for her.
My sister thinks that Mum hasn't got Alzheimers because she still knows how to do things, but I think she's in the early stages. Is that possible? That mum could have Alzheimers but still know how to look after herself? That capability could disappear at any time? I don't know why I want it to be Alzheimers, but I think it's because I want a label for what's wrong with mum. Does that make sense? Is that wrong of me? Should I just be rejoicing that there's no diagnosis yet, or continue to read up everything I can about Az so that I can help mum and advise my sister when the symptoms get worse?
Thanks for reading this far