y father was diagnosed as having Vascular dementia & Alzheimers in January finally after 8 months of my asking for an assessment & we are finding it more & more difficult to cope on a night. We have to laugh at some of the things he says. During the day when he says he wants to go home we can cope Otherwise we would end up crying, I feel bad for doing that as he just looks at us & wonders what's going on, but come nighttime when he's getting up 3 & 4 times getting washed & shaved putting all the lights on going downstairs & shouting at us telling us it's time to get up, but to cope through the day we need some sleep. Mums started snapping & crying if she has to deal with him on a night so I've told her I'll get up during the night with him. I understand that he can't help it from when I was nursing.
He goes for a couple of weeks wears himself out then sleeps all night for one night then the cycle starts again up every night until he's exhausted. Even a sleeping tablet doesn't help the most sleep he gets is 2 hours at a time then up for a couple of hours back to bed up again.
I don't know how much more we can cope without sleep ourselves even on the night he sleeps its like having a baby we are waiting for him to get up. Not being well myself I have epilepsy that isn't controlled & stress doesn't help, open wound from 2013 & pain from multiple blood clots in both lungs & my mother is 80 now she always looked so young but looks really frail & old.
We have a man come one morning a week to sit with my father for 11/2 hours & we can increase that to 3 hours eventually but it's the night that's worse. I've just coaxed him back into bed now. Anyone have any ideas to get him to sleep we even tried the sleep tea. Getting desperate. Some family members think there's nothing wrong as they don't see him when he's not compus metus
He goes for a couple of weeks wears himself out then sleeps all night for one night then the cycle starts again up every night until he's exhausted. Even a sleeping tablet doesn't help the most sleep he gets is 2 hours at a time then up for a couple of hours back to bed up again.
I don't know how much more we can cope without sleep ourselves even on the night he sleeps its like having a baby we are waiting for him to get up. Not being well myself I have epilepsy that isn't controlled & stress doesn't help, open wound from 2013 & pain from multiple blood clots in both lungs & my mother is 80 now she always looked so young but looks really frail & old.
We have a man come one morning a week to sit with my father for 11/2 hours & we can increase that to 3 hours eventually but it's the night that's worse. I've just coaxed him back into bed now. Anyone have any ideas to get him to sleep we even tried the sleep tea. Getting desperate. Some family members think there's nothing wrong as they don't see him when he's not compus metus