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Night terrors

Norrms

Registered User
Feb 19, 2009
5,359
Torquay Devon
Night terrors? warning signs not always visible

This night there was no warning of a bad night to come. Elaine my wife says usually there signs like myself twitching in my chair, arms jerking or my head darting from side to side as if I am looking for something just before I go to bed, but not this night.

Sleep came quickly as always but the darkness soon arrived, the darkness is what I call dementia itself. Within the deep recess of my mind, a battle was about to begin, my night terrors had arrived. no matter where I looked I saw it, (dementia) in the corner of my eye, following me, taunting me, calling me, mocking me. I began to run but it chased me, I hid in the shadows, but it was there, only feet away, snarling, clawing away at my sanity. it was only a matter of yards away, and then it happened, I turned and faced it, looked it in the eye and summoned strength I never thought I had, It was time........

I took a deep breath and ran towards it, screaming, shouting hoping it would disappear, but it just stood its ground. I got closer and closer, it seemed an age before I reached it and as I did, my arms came up, my fists clenched and my legs kicked, I screamed, clawed punched and kicked as hard as I could, I was relentless, pounding and pounding its grotesque shape hopefully into submission, I felt something wrap around my legs first, then my arms, until I could hardly move, still screaming hurtful obscene comments at dementia, I wriggled and struggled to escape my restraints but to no avail.

My eyes opened so very slowly at first, still trying to get me bearings and still struggling to get free from whatever it was that was holding me. As all became clear I saw the incredible beautiful eyes of Elaine, holding me tight, she had somehow managed to wrap me in the sheet and held me firmly, she had my legs held in like a scissor lock with her own legs until eventually I slowed to a halt and realized it was once again one of my night terrors. We held each other for so long, strangely, at first, for a minute I didn't want to be unwrapped from the sheet, I felt safe, and I also knew, MORE IMPORTANTLY, so was Elaine, OMG WHAT IF ????? WHAT IF ???? The thought still makes me shiver even now as I write. The thought of accidentally hurting someone I love and adore so much makes me sick to the stomach. We have talked about separate beds but Elaine always says not just yet, and for that and her bravery I love her so very much. Elaine was a Professional carer for 30 years plus before finishing to look after me, and has so much experience in this, but what of the others?? What of those with no experience of anything like this, those who didn't ask to become carers, yet are, those wonderful incredibly brave people who walk this earth ??

Those are the people I write this for, they are the ones dedicate this too as I hope to help them understand that its the illness and not the person who acts like this, and more importantly

YOU ARE NOT ALONE

xx

Cc Norrms Mc Namara Diagnosed with Lewy body type Dementia
 

Thethirdmrsc

Registered User
Apr 4, 2018
127
Thank you Norrms for posting this. I cannot imagine how hard this is for you both. My OH has occasional nightmares, but can’t tell me anything about it. It’s a good insight.
Much love to you both.
 

Tea and. toast

Registered User
May 8, 2019
56
Thank you for sharing my heart goes out to you both. Thinking of you and Elaine and wishing you peace. My Dad has not long been diagnosed with LBD but thankfully at the moment has only had mild hallucinations.