Any advice would be wonderful. My father in law aged 84 has had to put mum 84into care ,he didn't want to and has been her sole carer for over 7 years since she was diagnosed with Dementia. He can not look after her anymore she can do nothing for herself at all,she can not walk without two people supporting her and refuses to sit in a wheelchair and even eating is a problem, she can not use knife fork or spoon anymore she finger feeds like a toddler does , she will not let dad dress or wash her or do anything for her at all anymore she attacks him if he tries to help her, she's double incontinent and won't let him clean her. We got carers to come in each day and for two weeks she allowed them under protest to wash and dress her and now she won't let them. She's been in care home for a week and is ''sweetness itself '' at the moment. Any way my father in law asked if he could claim NHS cont care etc and social worker said ''absolutely not' is this correct or is he entitled to put in a claim ?? as I said he didn't want her in care home but didnt have any choice but to put her in as she refuses all care at home , any help would be appreciated. Thank you in advance.